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Tuesday, May 01, 2007

How do you spot a manipulator?

You can't. Not when you're the manipulated one. You never know until it's too late.

Everyone has been taken advantage of at least once in their life. It's a fair game. It's human nature to do so.

I know I've been taken advantage of many many times. Some I let willingly, some I didn't know.
Have I been manipulated? Sadly, I must say I have. And today, I understood it all.

Being a manipulator isn't something everyone can do. A person who knows how to manipulate (conciously or not) has a certain charm, a certain draw. Everything the person says, though it may be against your beliefs might suddenly sound like the most inspiring thing you've ever heard. You actually find yourself believing. And that's where you think you've established a connection. It's special, you think to yourself. But it is a trap. Though not intentionally set for you, but you've fallen, not knowing what it truly is. It has become an obsession.

I've seen so many people, strong and smart, defeated at the hands of a manipulator. But sometimes I do believe that person who manipulates mean no harm. It is just the way things are.

It is today I realise that I'm lucky enough to find a way out. I know I've been upset, confused and was made to believe in something which didn't exist (or did it?). It chips my ego to admit that I was fooled. Like so many others, I was. But then I remembered.

I'm human too.

The lessons life sometimes spring upon you. *sigh*


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Comments:
hey babe, totally agree with u bout manipulators..[i think sometimes,its a way of life tho, to get things ur way]
Im missin out so much...hope things goin on great for u! ^.^
 
i think being manipulated has it's good things... at least we can recognize how that situation or person got us manipulated and we can stay away from it. Don't worry, I get manipulated all the time. And being taken advantage of, of course not physically. Guys like to touch me a lot though...is that considered as manipulating?

Btw, love your blog. Feel happy whenever I view em.
 
Jess: Yeah I totally agree, something like how the weak gets crushed and the strong prevails. Just less tragic.

My exams coming soon. So if wanna go kai kai must do it soon!! x)

Steve/Lam: Hey, thank you so much for loving my blog, I can assure you that it feels very loved now. x)

We learn from ur mistakes and emerge stronger and wiser. That's part and parcel of life. I can't comment much on guys liking to touch you alot. More like I rather not comment. Hahahaha! Gotta say one thing only: stand up for your rights! XD Haha!
 
steve: guys touch u??? wuah.....lol..
 
Haha, yeah really, except my church guys cuz they are too busy touching girls. Just kidding...

Wonder if this things has happened in the court before...the term 'manipulator' and 'manipulatee' must have sounded funny if it happens...
 
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